The Sinfulness of Cinderella Thinking

“Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy.”
(Ezekiel 16:49, NIV)

Finish school, get a well-paying job, marry and have kids, take care of my family and live happily ever after!
The ‘Cinderella’ Mindset

Is the ‘Cinderella’ Mindset the mindset you have? Is this how you think – more or less? Is this your ambition in life – more or less? Well, you should re-consider if pleasing God is something you care about. It’s good to aim to provide a good life for yourself and family but this is not the extent of your responsibility as far as God is concerned.

Consider the following statement God made in Ezekiel 16:49 (NIV): “Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned”; they did not help the poor and needy. When we think about the sin of Sodom we think about homosexuality. Yes, that is certainly a sin that existed in Sodom but over here we see God saying that their sin was that there were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned. God judged them for being unconcerned about the poor! Sin is not just the bad that you do but the good that you do not do. ‘Not strengthening the hand of the poor and needy’ is considered sin by God just like arrogance and homosexuality.

Taking care of your family is a fine aspiration indeed but find somewhere in your life’s aspiration to include ‘strengthening the hand of the poor and needy’ otherwise you will be living a sinful life. In the same way that you work hard for a good future for yourself and your family, you should work hard to also help the poor. The world doesn’t judge people for not helping the poor. If you steal, you will be arrested but if you are unconcerned about the poor, no one will arrest you. It is not against human laws to be unconcerned about the poor. However, it is against God’s laws. Don’t plan your life the way that the world does. Don’t think only about yourself and your family. Make room in your life for helping the poor!

Don’t Just Preach!

Jesus called his disciples to him and said, “I have compassion for these people; they have already been with me three days and have nothing to eat. I do not want to send them away hungry, or they may collapse on the way.” – Matthew 15:32 (NIV)


Some christians think they are more spiritual than Jesus! When you talk to them about helping the poor materially, they tell you things like it is the soul that matters! Such people are always eager to go out and preach to the lost but have no interest whatsoever when it comes to providing practical assistance to the needy in society. Jesus spent days teaching the people the word of God. He was concerned about their soul but he was also concerned about whether they had food to eat. That is true compassion. That’s the example Jesus set for us. We must be concerned not just about the spiritual state of people but their material state as well! You are not more spiritual than Jesus! If Jesus cared about whether or not people had eaten, so should you!

When I think of such people, I remember the priest and levite who saw the man who had been beaten by robbers and passed by on the other side. (See Luke 10:25-37) Such people readily preach or sing in church they will readily provide practical help to a needy person! Such people are not following the example of Jesus Christ! Jesus gave practical help to the people in addition to preaching to them.

Another important point is this. We can only reach so many with words and Bible quotes. We must demonstrate the Spirit through whom we are preaching! The fruit of the Spirit is love. How can we expect people to believe a gospel in which our Lord laid down his life for humanity when we – the advocates – will not lay down anything for humanity. God is good, caring and compassionate: we must not just tell it; we must show it! As Jesus said in Matthew 5:16 (NIV): “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Sister, they must not just hear your preaching, they must see your good deeds! Brother, it is not just about quoting scriptures, let them see your good deeds! Pray that God will give you true compassion that cares not only about the soul of people but about their material well-being and practically helps them out.